“Calvinists” don’t teach that grace can never be resisted – In fact it is always resisted until God decides to overcome our sin loving hearts with his omnipotent love.

There is a drawing that is ultimately irresistible, not because he forces men to believe, but because he opens their eyes to see that Jesus is precious, and they then willingly come. This he does by causing them to be born again – ie regeneration or new birth.

Eph 2: “And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience— among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.”

This is man resisting the grace of God in sending his Son. This is man saying I prefer my sin to any “god”. How shall this dead rebellious sin-loving heart by transformed into a sin-hating, God-loving heart? Free Will? His will is freely choosing and loving sin! No! My freewill will never do.

Ephesians answers “BUT GOD, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— .

This is where God overcomes our dead heart’s resistance and makes us alive in Christ. This is the only way dead hearts would ever choose God over sin.

John 1 says, “But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God!”